people don’t exist in a vacuum where those who are on time care about others and those who don’t run on time don’t. I’m sure there’s something in your life that you’re bad at, and you’d appreciate and welcome his help with that if he’s better at it. Usually, it’s about a 10 to 15-minute wait, followed by 30 seconds of grumbling in the car, followed by getting back to normal. Finally told him that in the future, if he were more than 10 minutes late, I simply wouldn’t be there, whether I was simmering just behind the door or not. I have been in 4 long-term (multi-year) relationships over the course of my adult life (I am in my early thirties). And, I wanted to feel the same about him. I’d cut loose this guy probably after his second lateness. I imagine he won’t like it at all, and will be very fidgety, if not fuming. What you’re talking about is the corporate class. There’s a big difference between someone being late for no good reason vs someone who has a reasonable explanation. If it annoys you, that’s a legitimate way to feel. You can compromise yes, but not on values. If she continued to do it, I would be grateful that was her only flaw. Now I never said I or anyone else shouldn’t make the effort to be on time or considerate to others. In Changing Your Game (my book for guys), I talk about Woman Speak – i.e. Because I promise you, you’re annoying qualities are no less annoying to others than how you feel annoyed by others people’s annoying qualities. it’s really You’ll only be surprised and upset when he’s late if you keep expecting him to be on time! No neurosis. I was just pointing out that maybe the person waiting for you couldn’t have a good time if you were late. Perhaps you feel that their tardiness is a sign that they haven’t made you or your relationship a priority. We just tease each other about it. Usually arriving 5-10 minutes in advance to bang on cue.