When we got to the club, we got a nasty surprise. I could walk down the street and no stranger would bother me. This became the case since the 1960s. I also put on 10 lbs and aged a bit but I think those had less of an impact. So I rarely talked to anybody. 2019-01-08 20:00:16 I [32 M] have been dating a person [26 F] who's almost perfect in every way, but I don't love her. Then I had a mental breakdown and gained 100lbs over 10 years (about 10lbs/year). I would definitely not get any GQ covers. It is. Search ... No one finds your stale crusty poop and TP residues attractive." And I'm still sitting right there. And I hate it. It’s not your fault that you look the way you look. It makes me understand just how vain I am, and that my hard rule of no plastic surgery, could be gone in the next few years lol. I don't know if I was particularly hot, but it got really really tiring having strange men shout at me, follow me, and bother me in public. I can't just stand outside the club smoking a cigarette now and let other people put effort into approaching me and talking to me (though that's just an example, I no longer smoke or go to clubs). Cookies help us deliver our Services. All I could do is watch as the best years of my life pass me by. Reading everyone's responses has been really insightful though! Now that I'm back to my "goal" body, I'm still doing all those things - the tanning, nails, make-up, hair, dressing up - but I'm really not sure how long it'll last. I've read accounts from attractive guys who struggle hard. It took me years to recognize the force of vanity - in myself and others. I was conventionally attractive and extremely fit. Just REALLY turned off by how differently I'm treated. I like it when I experience it - but I can also see that it is something you can easily come to crave, depend on and identify with. But I know that's easy to say. They worried about loneliness among those isolated from others, the ability to get food safely, and what it might mean to spend the entire spring indoors, unable to get any real reprieve from cabin fever. Or to be more precise showing incel like behavior as the community in question didn'r exist at the time (or I was not aware of it) and frankly I had luck. I modeled in the early 1980s. Saving this. The bartender always sees me right away and comes over. As a pretty young woman I'm just more visible somehow. You've earned your fucking swagger! "no, YOU'RE so thin!" Trust me. But if you're still young, the odds are that you can turn yourself around physically. But I've been really destructive. Posts by SketchyPornDude 2018-12-09 20:32:33 What's it like to be an attractive man who gets approached by women in public? ._2cHgYGbfV9EZMSThqLt2tx{margin-bottom:16px;border-radius:4px}._3Q7WCNdCi77r0_CKPoDSFY{width:75%;height:24px}._2wgLWvNKnhoJX3DUVT_3F-,._3Q7WCNdCi77r0_CKPoDSFY{background:var(--newCommunityTheme-field);background-size:200%;margin-bottom:16px;border-radius:4px}._2wgLWvNKnhoJX3DUVT_3F-{width:100%;height:46px} She said after a certain age it felt like she was ignored, and it took her a long time to realize why. For this reason, many celebrities – young and old – turn to plastic surgery or drastic weight loss to maintain their good looks. With a title like 9 Ways Anyone Can Instantly Be More Attractive, you would think that I would pull a switcheroo and exclusively talk about the importance of feeling your feelings, self-love, character development, and being in integrity and generally feeling alive in your life. I have never been seated next to an attractive woman on a plane, but if I ever were this is exactly how I picture it going. The friend zone exists by the way due to lack of confidence. 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It's almost as bad as the feeling of having wasted your youth. How do I feel about it? I still like my face. Constant pain is a terrible thing - I haven't experienced it myself, but seen what it does to others. I don't know how I know it, but my straight friend and I have a same male celebrity crush and she just dies when she sees him without t-shirt on, I have no feelings, I just can say he is good looking. As I said above, I have a voice disorder. Gaining weight has taken a toll on my confidence more than anything. I don't get catcalled anymore. After seeing it, they stop talking to me. Scary stuff, buts its there no matter.. I have no fear of rejection and I strike up conversation easily. I'm supersonically introverted and shy. I mean most here are not facially attractive so getting into shape isn't as effective for them, because you can't really work out your face, well maybe lose a bit of that head fat but that's it. Instead, I turn to sex. And I've definitely noticed, across this journey, that there are differences in both the way I think about myself and in how others react towards me. One of the main reasons that people choose to use an alternative search engine instead is for increased privacy, as Google is known to track user data both for its own and third-party use.. Fat people are simply tools to make their (presumably non-fat) partners feel more desirable. Even if I'm wearing sweatpants and a T shirt, everyone's eyes turn to look at me. My … I don't care about the wrinkles. It feels like I am tied to some train tracks and I could see the train coming but I can't stop it, I can't escape. I'm not sure if anyone will believe this, but men definitely treat me differently. I gained quite a bit of weight due to recovering from an eating disorder. I'm reasonably successful, but certainly not rich. And Lord help me if I let them know I think they're attractive - radio silence from then on out. This is because high feminine voices are associated with youth, which equates with attractiveness. We grow up being bombarded with similar almost impossible images in tv, movies, fashion, magazines, celebs, adult entertainment, etc which then transfer to society & how we see/treat/value other women in pretty much every situation you can think of, from walking down the street to jobs to even family gatherings. 11-16 were fucking hell. You are likely overrating yourself. Never ever touched the stuff - but I am less of a crusader now. Small boobs go hand-in-hand with thinness, so, therefore, there’s a preference for skinny, small-boobed women. Even if it’s the biggest and most well known, it doesn’t mean it’s your only choice. /*# sourceMappingURL=https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/chunkCSS/IdCard.de628c13230c59091a5d.css.map*/._2JU2WQDzn5pAlpxqChbxr7{height:16px;margin-right:8px;width:16px}._3E45je-29yDjfFqFcLCXyH{margin-top:16px}._13YtS_rCnVZG1ns2xaCalg{font-family:Noto Sans,Arial,sans-serif;font-size:14px;font-weight:400;line-height:18px;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex}._1m5fPZN4q3vKVg9SgU43u2{margin-top:12px}._17A-IdW3j1_fI_pN-8tMV-{display:inline-block;margin-bottom:8px;margin-right:5px}._5MIPBF8A9vXwwXFumpGqY{border-radius:20px;font-size:12px;font-weight:500;letter-spacing:0;line-height:16px;padding:3px 10px;text-transform:none}._5MIPBF8A9vXwwXFumpGqY:focus{outline:unset} Posts by SketchyPornDude 2018-12-09 20:32:33 What's it like to be an attractive man who gets approached by women in public? 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